Bugso ng kalungkutan..

May mga bagay na mahirap ipaliwanag..
hindi dahil magulo ang mga pangyayari..
kundi dahil baka wala namang makaintindi.

Hindi ko na maalala ang eksaktong petsa na huli akong ginanahang magsulat.
3 lang naman ang dahilan kung bakit ako sumusulat..
tawag ng malikhaing kaisipan, labis na kasiyahan.. at lubos na kalungkutan.

Ngunit sa pagkakataong ito,
Lubos ang kalungkutang nadarama ko.
Kalungkutang nagmumula sa malalim na bahagi ng aking puso.

Napakadaming tanong na hindi masagot,
hindi nga ba masagot o pilit kong hindi pinaniniwalaan?
Mga pangyayaring tila ipinagpilitan lamang.
Bagay na unti-unting sumisira sa aking katinuan.

Hiling ko lang sana ay lisanin na ako ng ganitong pakiramdam.
Kaliwanagan sa katotohanan, sana ay akin ng makamtan..
Habang kaya pa ng aking isip pigilan ang mga pananalanta..
ng mga pangyayaring sa aki'y nagpapahina.

-Krista

HOW TO FACE YOUR FEARS... BEFORE THEY BECOME SERIOUS PHOBIAS

(fourth article; CAStimes official publication)

Screamed so hard because of flying cockroaches, fast running filthy rats and mice, and spiders? How about standing on very high places? Like on top of the mountain or near the edge of some towering places? How about being upset while near the pool, or river, or any part of water?

I’m sure that most of us can relate to this kind of scenarios, some people are scared of dogs, cats, lizards, dark places, empty rooms, standing in front of the crowd, you can name all things you could think of and there would be those people afraid to/of it. But have you ever seriously thought of these fears? Are they still typical? Or can they be already classified as disorders?

Phobia weren’t new to us, it’s just that we don’t pay much attention to it unless we are psych majors or we are in a field were phobia is something that should be mastered or at least be/get familiarized.

Wikipedia defines phobia as an irrational, intense and persistent fear of certain situations, activities, things, animals, or people. However, phobia is not mere fear of certain objects, but, it is something which is beyond one’s control, and is interfering with the person’s daily life. Fear can be categorized as a disorder or a phobia when there’s already excessive and unreasonable desire to avoid the feared stimulus.

To name some common phobias are: Arachnophobia (fear of spiders), Ophidiophobia (fear of snakes), Acrophobia (fear of heights), Claustrophobia (Fear of being trapped in small confined spaces), and Hydrophobia (fear of water).

But have you ever heard of someone who’s afraid of chopsticks (Consecotaleophobia)? How about someone afraid of being tickled by feathers (Pteronophobia)? Try to imagine these fears: Fear of long words (Hippopotomonstrosesquippedaliophobia); Fear of objects at the right side of the body (Dextrophobia); Fear of things to the left side of the body (Levophobia); Fear of words(Logophobia); Fear of walking (Ambulophobia); Fear of gold (Aurophobia); Fear of everything (Panophobia or Pantophobia); They all belong to what they call unusual or weird phobias.

Suppose a Chinese is diagnosed with fear of chopsticks (consecotaleophobia), will he be questioned or worst condemned because using chopsticks is a must in their culture? Try to think of someone who is suffering from Dextrophobia (fear of objects at the right side of the body), what would his home look like? What if he’s partnered by someone who has Levophobia (fear of things to the left side of the body)? Will they be afraid of each other?

Another that’s just fun to know are these fears:  Ereuthrophobia- Fear of blushing; Geliophobia- Fear of laughter; Dendrophobia- Fear of trees; and Euphobia- Fear of hearing good news. However, I come up with some rational explanations regarding these fears; thus, I find these fears not to be so strange.

Quite mouth-full right?  But sometimes, we tend to develop these fears because of our negative perspectives.

Talking about phobia which is more serious and must be given attention to, I’ll share with you 5 simple ways to gradually lessen your anxiousness towards your fears to prevent it to becoming a phobia:

1.       SAY HI TO YOUR FEARS

-          Recognize these fears. What is it that scares you so much? Look at your fears closely and be honest in doing this. Scrutinize these fears!

-          For instance, a person who is suffering from Ereuthrophobia (fear of blushing) might have been suffering from it because he’s afraid that people will know that he’s shy or embarrassed. He might not want to show his emotions to others. I also infer that since shyness is a sign that the person lack confidence, he would not want others to see that he is weak. Thus the fear of blushing could be a manifestation that his real fear is actually showing his emotion, or his weakness, etc. So the root cause of his fear was actually being seen by others as such.

2.       BE BRANIER THAN YOUR FEARS

-          Defeat those fears through learning. Learn more about what makes you fearful of these situations. Educate yourself on these fears. Knowing a lot about them can lessen your anxiousness and makes you more prepared on what will happen next.

-          Dendrophobia (fear of trees) maybe common to children, or to some adults whose imaginations were wide enough to let those things roll in their minds. People suffering from this might have acquainted a tree and saw it differently. Mostly in provinces, there are big trees almost everywhere, and when you try to look outside from a window, the dark surrounding will help you build different species from a tree, like a monster for instance. We can also add to this the stories about, Kapre and Nunos living in a tree. As a result, people began to fear trees believing that a tree is not a mere living thing that helps us in many ways, but also, something mysterious that could visit our imaginations reaching even our dreams.

3.       REMEMBER MY NAME... FAITH!

-          Kidding aside, you got to have faith to face fears. You got to believe in something. Find faith in something, religion for instance. It's somewhat an assurance in some way that can make you feel as if nothing can go wrong. Knowing that you have something you can hold on to increases your confidence in facing your fears.

4.        LIST  THE WORST THINGS THAT CAN HAPPEN FROM FACING YOUR FEARS

-          Come on, we’re good at this, imagine yourself facing these fears and write down everything that can go wrong. Your knowledge on the things that might happen prepare you somehow with good tactics to overcome things.

5.       EMBRACE/TRY A NEW OUTLOOK

-          Yes the past is important but too much dwelling on the past won’t make you get over what has happened. It’ll only give you fear and you’ll never gain the courage to face them.

-          Say Geliophobia (fear of laughter), who do you think in this world would hate being happy? Or doesn’t like laughing? An individual who is suffering from this fear possibly have this thought that every laughter is equal to tears. Perhaps he thought that if he’ll be so happy at a particular moment, he’ll be so miserable later on. In this way, he detested laughter. His real fear could have not been the laughter itself, but the tears, or the loneliness. Likewise, the fear of hearing good news or Euphobia could also depend on the next event that will happen. In connection to Geliophobia, a person suffering from Euphobia possibly acquired this fear because he also has the kind of thought that every good news has its corresponding bad news. Therefore, he is afraid to hear good news because of the preceding bad news

-          See? You are conditioned to attach a negative ending to what you’ll be doing. Learn from your past but don’t let the past hinder you from achieving a better now. Trust me, it's the impressions you make now that matters. Be more positive and open-minded. Believe in yourself, sure you can make it.

My interpretations or inferences are not absolute explanations of some mentioned fears. They’re not reliable enough to use in different instances. They’re plain rational conclusions from my researches and they can always be corrected by experts.

-Krista

W E I R D

LET’S TALK ABOUT... PHOBIAS!

(Weird phobias- third article; CAStimes official publication)

Afraid of flying cockroaches, fast running filthy rats and mice, and spiders? How about standing on very high places? Like on top of the mountain or near the edge of any high places? How about being upset while near the pool, or river, or any part of water?

Some people are scared of dogs, cats, lizards, lions, dark places, empty rooms, standing in front of the crowd, etc. But have you ever realize or let’s say categorize these fears? Are they those typical fears or anxiety? Or can they be already classified as disorders?

Phobia weren’t new to us, it’s just that we don’t pay much attention to it unless we are psych majors or we are in a field were phobia is something that should be mastered or at least be/get familiarized.

The famous Wikipedia defines phobia as an irrational, intense and persistent fear of certain situations, activities, things, animals, or people. However, phobia is not mere fear of certain objects, but, it is something which is beyond one’s control, and is interfering with the person’s daily life. Fear can be categorized as a disorder or a phobia when there is the excessive and unreasonable desire to avoid the feared stimulus.

Arachnophobia (fear of spiders), Ophidiophobia (fear of snakes), Acrophobia (fear of heights), Claustrophobia (Fear of being trapped in small confined spaces), Hydrophobia (fear of water) were some of the common phobias most of us know or somehow have heard of.

But have you ever heard of someone who’s afraid of chopsticks (Consecotaleophobia)? How about someone afraid of being tickled by feathers (Pteronophobia)? Try to imagine these fears: Fear of long words (Hippopotomonstrosesquippedaliophobia); Fear of objects at the right side of the body (Dextrophobia); Fear of things to the left side of the body (Levophobia); Fear of words(Logophobia); Fear of walking (Ambulophobia); Fear of gold (Aurophobia); Fear of everything (Panophobia or Pantophobia). These are some of what they call unusual or weird phobias.

Suppose a Chinese is diagnosed with the fear of chopsticks (consecotaleophobia), will he be questioned or worst condemned because using chopsticks is a must in their culture? Try to think of someone who is suffering from Dextrophobia (fear of objects at the right side of the body), what would his home look like? What if he is partnered by someone who has Levophobia (fear of things to the left side of the body)? Will they be afraid of each other?

Another that’s just fun to know are these fears:  Ereuthrophobia- Fear of blushing; Geliophobia- Fear of laughter; Dendrophobia- Fear of trees; and Euphobia- Fear of hearing good news. However, I come up with some rational explanations regarding these fears; thus, I find these fears not to be so strange.

For instance, a person who is suffering from Ereuthrophobia or the fear of blushing might have been suffering from it because he is afraid that people will know that he is shy or embarrassed. He might not want to show his emotions to others. I also infer that since shyness is a sign that the person is not confident, he would not want others to see that he is weak. Thus the fear of blushing could be a manifestation that his real fear is actually showing his emotion, or his weakness, etc.

Another is Geliophobia or the fear of laughter, who do you think in this world would hate being happy? Or does not like laughing? An individual who is suffering from this fear possibly have this thought that every laughter is equal to tears. Perhaps he thought that if he’ll be so happy at a particular moment, he’ll be so miserable later on. In this way, he detested laughter. His real fear could have not been the laughter itself, but the tears, or the loneliness.

Likewise, who in this world doesn’t like to hear good news? The fear of hearing good news or Euphobia could also depend on the next event that will happen. In connection to Geliophobia, a person suffering from Euphobia possibly acquired this fear because he also has the kind of thought that every good news has its subsequent/corresponding bad news. Therefore, he is afraid to hear good news because of the preceding bad news. So his real could be hearing bad news.

Dendrophobia or the fear of trees can be considered a little bit strange, however, I could still see some reasons behind it. This fear maybe common to children, or maybe some adults whose imaginations were wide enough. People suffering from might have acquainted a tree and saw it differently. Mostly in province, there are big trees almost everywhere, and when you try to look outside from a window, the dark surrounding will help you build another specie from a tree, like a monster for instance. We can also add to this the stories about, Kapre and Nunos living in a tree. As a result, people began to fear trees believing that a tree is not a mere living thing that helps us in many ways, but also, something mysterious that could visit our imaginations reaching even our dreams.

It’s interesting to know that we have a wide range of fears in our lives; there are some common fears and certain fears which are not included to the list of the typical ones. Have you thought of your fears? Are they common or do you also have these unusual ones? J

My interpretations or inferences are not absolute explanations of some mentioned fears. They’re not reliable enough to use in different instances. They’re plain rational conclusions and they can always be corrected by experts.

-krista

LOVE? INFATUATION? LUST?

Assessing your feelings:

Knowing the Difference among Love, Infatuation and Lust

(my second article; CAStimes official publication)

So there you are, you meet someone who all your life, or so it seems, you have been waiting for, the person who makes your heart pound, makes the stars bright, and taken over all reasonable thought processes with ideas of love.

Whenever we are about to consider entering a relationship, we should ask ourselves first. What do I really feel about this special person?

While there's no clear, fool-proof way to make sense out of your feelings for someone, the following are certain ways from reliable sources that will help you to make the distinction between love, lust and infatuation clearer for yourself.

Could it be love?

Infatuation is when you think of someone all the time, you go out of your way to be around him/her, and you begin to center your priorities around him/her as well. There is history with this person: Maybe a short history, but maybe quite a while. You both enjoy being together. You both daydream about each other.
Infatuation is a static process characterized by an unrealistic expectation of blissful passion without positive growth and development. Characterized by a lack of trust, lack of loyalty, lack of commitment, lack of reciprocity, an infatuation is not necessarily foreplay for a love scenario.

In infatuation, you have blinders on. It seems that everything seems so perfect. What you might not see by keeping the blinders on, what can be serious flaws in any relationship, are the destructive traits and behaviors that degrade self esteem and cause some pretty negative effects on one’s choices and decisions. Your thoughts of
romance were simply an innocent fantasy: An infatuation that felt like love at the time.

As they’ve said, in time, the faults that you refuse to see will begin to come to the foreground. You may be infatuated with a handsome and intelligent person, but as you come to know that person on a more intimate basis, the qualities that intrigued you will begin to fade into the background.

In Lust?

In lust, there is the desire and belief that everything is yours; selfish concerns dominate. There is an intense craving for self gratification including sex. No thought put into the other persons feeling or cares. And if so caring is somewhat present, it is about of some thing or some person because of what it or he or she can give to us. And of course it’s not connected with love

If you only want to be with this person to have sex, it's lust. If you try to describe your date to a friend and can only talk about physical appearance and body parts, that's lust. If you don't call or converse with this person except when you want physical pleasure, that's lust. If you lie to someone in order to get into bed with him or her, that's lust. And, naturally, if your partner does any of these things to you, that's lust too.

It's possible for an affair based purely on lust to develop into a healthy relationship based on love, but it doesn't happen all that often.

Love as a dynamic process.

For me, that means that there is a relationship that flexes, changes and grows as people mature, experience happens upon them, priorities and dreams are built and goals are met. Love brings out the best in people as individuals. The relationship between them becomes the way they define their lives. As jobs, careers, and family concerns change, people are able to work as a team to be understanding and flexible so the relationship (their lives) will flourish.

Dynamic process of love equals a sharing of emotion, trust, and growth of relationship. Growth is increasing ability of a couple to live symbiotically, enjoy each others company, trust each other with more secrets, depend on each other in more crises over the years, in raising children and taking care of aging relatives. It’s about growing old together, and long-term investments like real estate and children.

In the case of love, your focus is on your special someone, and that someone exists in the real world. Give and take, compromise and cooperation are characteristics of love relationships. Working toward common goals, sharing dreams and values define the dynamics of a good love relationship. People know each other on a separate and private level than the world at large.

So, are you in love? Or are you in lust? Or maybe you’re just infatuated?

The answers and the courage to face the facts is the key to making the determination.

Beware of your own vulnerability, and your own desire to get rescued from that solitary life of the unpaired. Think before you decide and be responsible for your decisions.

-krista

Insight from a graduating student..

(picture taken when I was in 3rd year college 2010; I was still chubby that time)

via FACEBOOK note

by Krista Lopez on Friday, August 26, 2011 at 11:40am

 

Few months from now, I am certain that I'll be graduating. As I am about to finish off my college life, I've realized how I wasted the chance of giving more than what I have given to my entire school life or education; and how I still wanted to learn more and give more.

I haven't been a good student, though I got really good grades together with all the recognitions, awards, and medals, I am not satisfied with the efforts I've exerted to my education with so may years of having the chance to do so. I know I have not given the very best of my capabilities although I am aware that I have so much more to give.

I hope students will realize how blessed are them to have the opportunity to study, and I suggest that they study more and exhaust the professors and the facilities of the school to really make out the most of their education.

We don't have to get all A's in our subjects, I am not after the grades, recognition, and the like. I am not encouraging anyone to be a nerd, to compete with other people for the sake of winning. Learning is more than that, more than science, more than philosophy, and so on.

It's just that, learning for me is a gift we must appreciate well.

Learning is something we should not be afraid of taking risk and giving of our best. Learning is one of the most wonderful things life could offer. I know if we have discovered the true essence of education and learning, we'll appreciate it more. The recognitions, the result of landing in a good job, having a high position, and earning so much were just the bonuses it could offer. But more than that, doing so much to learn is a way of expressing our gratitude to God for being human,with the ability to think and rationalize.

Learning is not limited to the classroom setting. However, it is the most explicit form of learning, that's why I am encouraging students to be motivated in studying.
Let's not set boundaries to ourselves in giving what we have. I believe that each of us can give so much more than what we are giving which we often thought was enough. Do not be afraid to recite, ask questions, admit that at times we do not understand things, etc.

Never get tired of learning. Learning is fun if we see the true value of being able to learn and having something to learn on. Let others learn from you. Continue learning. Enjoy life. Enjoy God's gift.

"And how from childhood you have been acquainted with the sacred writings, which are able to make you wise for salvation through faith in Christ Jesus."
2 Timothy 3:15 ESV

"Let the wise hear and increase in learning, and the one who understands obtain guidance,"
Proverbs 1:5 ESV

"always learning and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth."
2 Timothy 3:7 NASB

""Moses was educated in all the learning of the Egyptians, and he was a man of power in words and deeds."
Acts 7:22 NASB

MATTHEW 7:7 "Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you.
SEEK and YOU'll find the answers :) GOD BLESS US ALL.

Thank you for reading. :) You may share it to others if you intend to :)
-Krista

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Hello.

Welcome to my thoughts’ site.

Feel free to visit my page and read my blogs.

You’re allowed to like or hate whatever I write here.

I am actually an official writer and editor; however I won’t be strict to my subject-verb agreement, my grammar, or even to the flow of my thoughts here. I won’t be doing much editing here.

This is my first time to do blogging. I usually write articles and/or literary stuffs for school purposes; for my entry to our publication paper; and for my personal collection since writing is one of my passions.

The blogs will be coming from my mind encoded directly/straight to my computer, so people, go easy on me. J

Think with me, laugh, cry, criticize, love, hate, live, and die. :)

Enjoy reading.

PS.

Don’t fool yourselves and act stupid. NEVER EVER COPY MY BLOGS.

If you find them interesting, or something that could help you, you can ask me about it. I might allow you to do copy & paste provided that you asked my permission, you state your reason/s and you acknowledge me as the writer.

DON’T PLAGIARIZE. IT’S A CRIME.

Thanks.

-krista